There’s also the fact that sleeping it off then discussing it the next day like calm, rational people might do more for you, too.
Better Advice: “Don’t make big decisions in moments of intense emotion.”
Think of how many other similar pieces of “medical” advice we’ve gotten over the years, from ways of preventing pasma to our household attempts at alternative medicine because of what our mom’s friend heard from another friend.
Better Advice: “Pinch the bridge of your nose and apply a cold compress if you have one.” This stems the blood flow better, because there’s no reason you should have to prevent the blood from getting out of you. It’s not like keeping it from dripping means you stop bleeding – the blood just goes someplace else other than your veins.
Advice like this is every bit as pernicious as “God has a plan for me,” when we think God’s so-called plan is an excuse for our inaction. For all we know, His plan may very well have been for us to get off our behind and start getting a job. And speaking of getting a job…
Better Advice: “Nasa Diyos ang awa, nasa tao ang gawa.”
Even if you’re doing what you love for a living, there’s also the risk of ending up hating that very thing because it’s now work. Ask any professional magician.
Better Advice: “Learn to love your job,” with obvious limitations.
Better Advice: “Live every day as if it were your second to the last.” Your last day of life may be filled with all sorts of stupidity and debauchery, but your second to last day is all about setting things right. Also, don’t take advice like this too literally.
Better Advice: “Don’t do what I did.” Specificity helps.
And what’s to say that the world you live in at the moment is any less real than the world they live in? Ultimately, people have different capabilities at different points in their life, and this advice is borne out of a lack of empathy, and not particularly actionable.
Better Advice: “These things may not make sense to you right now, but not only will it make sense when the time comes, it’s not as big as a deal to follow it as you may feel it is.” Don’t be condescending. Condescension, of course, is when you assume so little of the intellect of the other person that you have to explain every little thing, like I’m doing right this very moment.
And, oh. Who else were you going to be other than yourself, to begin with? No matter how much you change yourself, you’re still yourself. Let’s not get too existential here.
Better Advice: “Be the best self you can be.” Not for other people, but for your own well-being.